“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” — Mark Twain

“Anger always outlasts hurt. Best to take the opposite course.” — Seneca

“Anger is a contract you make with yourself to be in physical and mental and emotional turmoil until reality changes.” — Naval Ravikant

“Anger is like an oven; heat without light. Forgiveness is like the moon; light without heat.” — James Clear

“To be angry is to revenge the faults of others on ourselves.” — Alexander Pope

“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master. They can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by them.” — Epictetus

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” — Buddha ¹

“Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you.” — Norman Vincent Peale

“A man is about as big as the things that make him angry.” — Winston Churchill

“He who angers you conquers you.” — Elizabeth Kenny ²

Beneath anger there’s always fear.

Anger is what fear and pain look like when they show themselves in public.

It’s okay to be sad, disappointed, or get lost, but don’t be angry. Anger is never the answer.

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

每生氣一分鐘，就會少 60 秒的快樂。

“Strong, negative emotions (fear, anger, anxiety, hopelessness) tend to narrow our minds—it’s as though our peripheral vision has been cut off because we’re so focused on the peril that’s front and center.” ― Marc Brackett, Permission to Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success

發火/憤怒/生氣時不講話/決策

• Speak when you’re angry and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
• The greatest remedy for anger is delay. When you are angry, try your best to go to sleep, it keeps you away from speaking and thinking.

沈默是反擊無恥的無聲風暴，憤怒是抗擊外辱的有效自殘。

Anger is a cover of pain. When our boundaries are crossed, it’s more effective to express our pain rather than anger. Anger is a secondary emotion triggered by pain when it exceeds what we can tolerate, signaling a boundary violation. Instead of reacting with anger, we should communicate our feelings non-accusatorily 3, leading to better understanding and response. For example, saying, “I wanted to talk about a boundary that was crossed and how it made me feel. If you’re open to it, I’d appreciate a different approach in the future.” This approach fosters openness and avoids defensiveness.

The story of the Buddha and the Angry Man

One day, the Buddha was walking through a village when a young man approached and began yelling at him.

“You are a fake! How can you claim to have wisdom to teach others? You know nothing!”

The Buddha paused and smiled at the young man, which further angered him.

“What do you have to say to me? I attack you and you just smile?”

The Buddha replied: “If you buy a gift for someone and that person doesn’t accept it, to whom does the gift belong?”

The young man, agitated, replied that the gift would still belong to him, because he was the one who had bought it.

The Buddha nodded: “The same applies to your anger. If you come to me with anger, but I choose not to accept it, the anger still belongs to you. You are the only one who is moved by it.”