“Everything that happens is either endurable or not. If it’s endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining. If it’s unendurable … then stop complaining. Your destruction will mean its end as well. Just remember: you can endure anything your mind can make endurable, by treating it as in your interest to do so. In your interest, or in your nature.” — Marcus Aurelius
“He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived.”（「怨人者途遠，責己者行半，無戾者已至，此之謂也。」—《左傳 》）
“I have a rule: no complaining about a situation unless you’re prepared to do something to make it better. If you see a problem and you don’t come to the table with a potential solution, I don’t want to hear your whining about how bad it is. It couldn’t be that bad if it hasn’t motivated you to try to fix it.” — Arnold Schwarzenegger, Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life
The person who has the most to do with what happens to you is you. Whatever it is, it’s your fault. Take the extreme ownership. (扛全責/負起所有責任) Nobody owes you anything at all. Develop a no-excuses mindset.
“Excuses are the rocks where our dreams are crushed.” — Tim Fargo
- When something goes wrong, own it, fix it, and prevent it from happening again.
- Never make excuses. Excuses don’t get results.
- As soon as I catch myself blaming anyone for anything, I decide it’s my fault/responsibility.
- Remember: You give power to who you blame. Never give your power to anyone else.
If it’s always someone else’s fault, it’s probably your fault.
If you meet a jerk once a month, you’ve met a jerk. If you meet jerks every day, you’re a jerk.