“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.” — Robert Holden

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” — Rupo Kaur

“The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. ¹ Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.” — Roy T. Bennett ²

“Anytime we can listen to true self and give the care it requires, we do it not only for ourselves, but for the many others whose lives we touch.” — Parker Palmer

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“If you find it hard to take good care of yourself, care for yourself like a toddler: Don’t let yourself get too hungry, too tired, or too uncomfortable; too bored, too lonely, or too overwhelmed.” — Gretchen Rubin

“You are not one person, but three: The one you think you are; The one others think you are; The one you really are.” — Sathya Sai Baba ³

“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?” — Maya Angelou

“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” — Lao Tzu

“Low self esteem is like driving through life with your handbrake on.” — Maxwell Maltz

“To choose doubt as a philosophy of life is akin to choosing immobility as a means of transportation.” — Yann Martel

The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for the relationship you have with everyone else, which will rarely be healthier than your self-esteem.

To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.

Self-esteem is the reputation that you have with yourself. If you want to have high self-esteem, earn your self-respect first. The hardest respect to earn is one’s own. Treat yourself with respect.

The internal golden rule: treat yourself the way others should have treated you.

People respect you, only as much as you respect yourself. Others treat you the way you treat yourself.

If you switched bodies with the person you love most for a year, how would you take care of their mind & body knowing you’d be giving it back to them? How would you take care of that person you love the most? Now do that for you.

The most courageous act is to think for yourself. Aloud.

Always put yourself first. Self-prioritize yourself. Take care of yourself before taking care of others, so that you can give them your best self. Self-care is giving the world the best of you instead of what’s left of you. Self-care isn’t selfish.

先自強，再助人

要先自私，才能無私

「心是一個容器，裝滿了別人，就裝不下自己。」

Analogy

• Put on your oxygen mask first. (你得先為自己戴上氧氣罩，才能開始救人。)
• A starving chef can’t feed anyone.
• You can’t pour from an empty cup.

You don’t need to be liked to be loved

The Ability To Love Yourself Improves Your Ability To Be Loved.

• We are unlikely to accept a relationship that is worse than the one we have with ourselves, and thus the person who is happy and comfortable with themselves is in a great position. The person with healthy self-esteem doesn’t have to jump into any relationship because they already have a great one wherever they go.
• If the time you spend alone is already enjoyable to some degree—that is, if you have a healthy internal monologue and generally feel good about yourself—then you will have a fairly high bar for the type of relationships you’ll enter.
• But if you’re unhappy with yourself, then you are more likely to put up with bad relationships because they may occasionally make you feel better than you do alone. If you want a great relationship, the first thing you want is to be comfortable with yourself.

Learn to laugh at yourself. The more you can laugh at yourself, the happier you’ll be. When you screw something up, practice laughing at yourself instead of beating yourself up / wrestling with yourself.

Change yourself to change the world

Dare to be different